Why Couples Therapy?

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Relationships are at once, one of the most beautiful, rewarding aspects of life, as well as one of the most challenging and painful. Many people want intimate partnership, yet we are rarely taught or shown how to create healthy connections. Somehow we are “Just supposed to know” how to function and thrive in relationship. But the reality is, few people are taught the tools, mindfulness skills, and knowledge that is necessary for relationships to thrive over time. It’s inevitable that every relationship goes through significant difficulties, but it's no wonder that we get incredibly stuck once we are there.

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In couples therapy, we will develop more intimacy, connection, and joy in your relationship, improve your communication skills, and improve your sex life. In this process, you will genuinely get to know your partner even more than you do now. In order to better manage conflict, we will develop and improve your attunement and regulation skills. I will provide a safe and welcoming container, so that each person feels open and honest in their communication. From there we can work with your specific needs as a couple. 

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Using a combination of approaches, including PACT (psychobiological approach to couples therapy), Compassionate Communication (NVC), Hakomi, authentic relating practices, Gestalt/Parts work, transpersonal and mindfulness-based approaches, I can help you improve your relationship so that can have the vital, healthy love you desire.

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Some of the Reasons That May Bring You to Couples Therapy

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• ​You keep getting stuck in the same arguments and patterns and have not found a way to resolve them

• You think your partner is very controlling and nothing you do seems right in their eyes. Their anger shuts you down

• Your reactivity, tendency to collapse, or quick temper in the face of conflict happens more than you would like to admit

• Your partner does not attend to your needs, listen, or care for you in ways that you wish they would

• You are afraid of losing yourself in the relationship or afraid of losing your partner

• You would like to improve your sex life or resolve a sexual discrepancy

• While you love each other, you are starting to wonder if being with someone else would just be easier, or a better fit for you

• Your kids, work, extended family, friends, or issues with substances are negatively impacting your relationship 

• You want to develop healthy relationship skills towards the beginning of relationship, before you encounter challenges

• The relationship has no 'aliveness', there is little conflict, but little excitement as well

• You are getting married and would like some support before you make this commitment

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Who I Work With

I work with adults of any race, background, gender, sexual orientation, nationality or religion. I also work with any relationship models, including monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, etc. I am in a interracial marriage and grew up in an LGBTQ+ household, and have experience and/or familiarity with the unique issues that these couples may face. 

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